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He was still in control though, and that made it very sexy, not frightening. The fact that nowadays he seems able to control his temper even when he is really angry with me is something I find utterly blissful.

This is the key to spanking when angry.

If the man stays in control of his anger and expresses it through the spanking, the woman receives the assurance that she is safe when he is angry. It allows her to feel - to directly experience - his anger.

This does not necessarily mean that he should spank harder or faster or longer when he is angry. In fact, a slower, sharper more deliberate spanking might be just the thing to really express how he really feels.

Anger is part of who we are. If we withhold it from our partners, we withhold part of ourselves.

by carlf on 2004 Dec 14 - 16:25 | reply to this comment
A sobering experience
There is nothing inherently wrong with allowing anger to motivate a spanking. It seems right to me that we should allow a natural feeling like anger to be expressed in a constructive way. There is everything to gain if we channel our anger into an experience that has great potential to restore harmony. In fact it seems preferable to me to spank while motivated by anger rather than repressing one's anger. Of course as everyone who has commented have said, the angry man MUST be in control of himself. Tev wrote:

It was sobering for me, but even when he was completely angry it turned out that I was safe with him.