https://bit.ly/3Nstx2B https://bit.ly/3Nwempq https://bit.ly/3T0sTKZ https://bit.ly/3DQVY7m https://bit.ly/3STkn09 https://bit.ly/3STkKrz https://bit.ly/3zybPFe https://bit.ly/3zBUjzM [Reply] reformed_tomboy Reply: July 15th, 2010 at 10:29 pm I agree that guys (and girls too even at times) want things to be very black and white. It’s very much a “just give me the answer and I’ll do it!” mentality I think. Life is decidedly more complicated than that unfortunately. reformed_tomboy´s last blog ..ChaosMy ComLuv Profile [Reply] verie44 Reply: July 15th, 2010 at 11:18 pm I agree that it’s a summation of things, but probably the one worst thing a guy can do varies from girl to girl. For me, it’s whining. I HATE whining & complaining. I can remember the exact moment when the downhill slope of negativity (obviously other things had happened before this) came to a stop & I realized that the person wasn’t right for me and it was when he started whining. I’m particularly sensitive to it because I was scolded whenever I whined growing up — my parents would tell me to fix the problem instead of talking about it. So when he did it (and extensively for over 15 minutes), I just respected him a lot less. He had done it before, but I didn’t remember all the other times because I was still into the relationship and I brushed it off as mildly annoying. [Reply] Susan Walsh Reply: July 16th, 2010 at 8:23 am I think whining has to be the weakest and most supplicating behavior of all. It means that the person has absolutely no “hand” and is just begging as a last resort. It’s also petulant. Whining is for children. Adults have no business indulging themselves this way. It’s a total relationship killer, because it’s impossible to respect someone who resorts to whining. We feel ashamed for the other person. When that happens, it’s over. [Reply] Susan Walsh Reply: July 16th, 2010 at 8:14 am